Each time you think negatively, teach yourself to visualize a stop sign; then try to discern where the negatively is coming from. Learning to love and accept yourself means putting an end to twisted thinking. Here are common mind games people play – and how to overcome them.
CATASTROPHIZING Example:
Since we pigged out at breakfast, the whole day could be ruined. We might as well stuff ourbody and startover tomorrow. Strategy: Ask your self how many times you have catastrophized before. Does the situation ever turn out as badly as you think it will? View setbacks as opportunities to renew your commitment to yourself -now, not tomorrow.
COMPARING Example:
“If I look Kate Moss, then my boyfriend will pay more attention to me.”. Strategy: Realize that you`re being unfair to yourself and that people in your age range come in a variety of shapes and sizes. Review your notes on defining your body image and realistically assess your potential. Finally, remind yourself that your boyfrinds does not love you for what you look like but for who you are.
PERFECTIONISM Example:
“I might have lost 5 pounds, but I can`t go to the beach until I`m a perfect size 8.” Strategy: Remind yourself that you`re thinking in a perfectionistic way, which is not how the world operates. You don`t expect those around you to be perfect, do you? Cut yourself the same slack.